Brexit is video confessions between sister brother about sexthe most divisive political issue in modern British history post-WW2. Its polarising effect can be felt in our communities, in our social media feeds, and even in our friendship groups. But the UK's departure from the EU is also causing, err, friction in another area of our lives: the bedroom.

Some say their sex drives have dwindled due to the stress Brexit is causing them. Some have even filed for divorce after their partner voted differently than they did. Some have remained (pun intended) with their partners, but feel too angry about things to have sex with them.

So, is Brexit a boner killer? Mashable spoke to more than 20 people about Brexit's effect on their sex lives.

When I tweeted a request for personal stories about Brexit's effect on sex, jokes abounded. Before we delve into the sex stuff, I feel duty-bound to share some of these sexit-themed jokes with you. "In other words Hard Brexit or Soft Brexit?" writes one jokester. "These days my hard backstop is always a part of my withdrawal agreement," reads another. "I find that I am getting screwed everyday with Brexit," reads another tweet. "BoJo killed your mojo?" reads another cracker. Jokes aside, my direct messages were replete with people whose love lives have felt a tangible cool-down.

There's no representative data available on this topic, so it's hard to know just how many sex lives have been affected, but here's what I learned from over 20 people I spoke to.

Brivorce

Stella voted Remain in the 2016 EU referendum and describes herself as "strongly pro-free movement and travel." So, when her husband told her he thought "Brexit was fair" she decided to file for divorce.

"He asked me to still fuck him as he had needs. Nope," she tells me. "But you can’t fuck someone who won’t sit and hold you and listen. Or who won’t tell you it will be fine, even if you both know you're lying."

One self-described "passionate Remainer," who prefers not to disclose her name, tells me her partner of 20 years voted Leave. "It’s damaged our relationship in lots of ways, not just our sex life," she says.

"My family on both sides are European Jews who came to the UK as migrants," she says. "I was and still am shocked to the core by his vote." After trying to talk about their differing views in the immediate aftermath of the referendum, their relationship has since "settled into passive aggressive sniping," she says. "It’s hard to have sex with someone you are constantly low level furious with — if you’re not having amazing make up sex, that is."

"He’s entitled to vote how he likes of course, and I feel petty that I can’t get over it," she adds. "I can’t break up our family over it, but I somehow can’t let go of my rage and it shows in our relationship!"

She's not alone, though. An American citizen living in the UK — who prefers to remain anonymous — describes herself as "in belief a Remainer" as she wasn't eligible to vote in the referendum. When she found out her British husband voted Leave, she stopped having sex with him and eventually divorced him. "Definitely a huge turn off. Sex ended. Divorce began," she says.

On the very opposite end of the spectrum, two people told me they're actually having more sex as a means of distracting themselves from headlines about Brexit deadlock.

The Brexit horn

One horny Remainer told me when he was single, he'd find himself ruling out Brexiteers completely. "Now in a relationship, and sex is actually more frequent as we both seek sensory escape from the ever-growing despair," he says.

"Also screened out one guy who said he didn't vote at all as he wasn't really interested in politics," he adds. "I was a bit gutted as he was a total hunk but I couldn't discard my principles unfortunately!"

He's not alone, either. Jules, who describes himself as "100 percent pro-Remain" says Brexit "makes me perhaps more in the mood rather than less." "Maybe this is due to needing to make sense of life somehow, and this being one good way to do so," he adds.

Sexit drive

For others, Brexit might not necessarily be driving a wedge between them and their partner, but the anxiety and stress has taken a toll on their libido. Kirsty Law says Brexit has affected every aspect of her life, including sex. "I am constantly distracted, anxious, and worried about what the future will hold for my children," she says. "All my energy is being used up reading, marching, setting up connections with others, meaning my relationship has suffered immensely."

EU citizen Signe Akmeņkalne, who comes from Latvia, tells me the worry about her own future has dampened her sex life. "The uncertainly of it all obviously weighs down on me it probably has been a factor in stress and therefore much less interest in getting it on," she says. Craig, who prefers to use his first name only, tells me that since the EU referendum was first called his anxiety has "gone through the roof" and has got progressively worse with every new development that's happened since. His partner is Polish and he's concerned about her future post-Brexit.

Craig has lived with anxiety for a long time, but it hadn't previously affected his sex drive. "This has caused me to have erectile dysfunction where it's next to impossible to achieve any kind of arousal," he tells me. "Never before have I had to do this before Brexit, but now I require to buy Viagra to even have sex with my partner, and being a working poor person this gets very expensive very fast if we want to be intimate more than once a week." He takes medication, but says it hasn't helped him and has decreased his sex drive.

Paul, who also prefers to go by his first name, says running a small business with Brexit looming on the horizon has impacted all areas of his life, sex included. Paul is married, and he says the stress of Brexit has left him feeling not in the mood for it. "If you're feeling stressed or worried or angry, you don't feel like sex," he says.

Don't mention the 'B word'

Some people who are navigating the single market (sorry) are ruling out Remainers or Leavers as possible sexual partners. Others prefer not to bring it up at all.

One Leave voter told me he's stopped mentioning Brexit on dates because it causes too much tension. "When I have mentioned it, they have been too angry to discuss it and just moved on," he tells me. "People have a more emotional reaction to Brexit than any other political issue. That's why I don't mention it anymore."

Louise, a Remain voter, has a pretty hard stance when it comes to possible sexual partners. "I would never sleep with a Brexiteer. That's a definite." she says. "I feel more miserable about the whole thing generally so yes I guess it has affected my mojo."

Still at it

Some couples with differing views on Brexit have managed to keep their sex lives unscathed.

Alexandra Bulat hasn't encountered any Brexit-related strife in her politically mixed relationship. "When my partner and I started dating six years ago, the word Brexit did not even exist," she says. Bulat and her partner voted differently in the referendum, but it hasn't made a jot of difference to their relationship. "We are as happy together now as we were in 2013."

"While I have many friends whose relationships were impacted by Brexit, I don't feel anything changed because of it in our couple life," she tells me. "Brexit was simply another topic added to the list of political topics we already disagreed on." When they talk about Brexit as a couple, they disagree, but then move on to other topics.

James Hinson voted Leave and his wife voted Remain. "Honestly for us, in terms of sex life, Brexit has been a non-issue," he says. "The world does not stop and neither does humanity." I asked Hinson if he has any advice for couples whose foundations have been shaken by Brexit. "It is really, really, really not the end of the world that we are leaving the EU," he says. "It is a moment in history, for better or worse, and we will get through it together."

Not everyone will share Hinson's approach to getting through Brexit, but it's certainly worth considering. That failing, you could try the sex-as-a-Brexit-distraction approach.